{"id":15518,"date":"2023-09-09T16:05:12","date_gmt":"2023-09-09T09:05:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thichblog.net\/?p=15518"},"modified":"2023-09-09T16:05:12","modified_gmt":"2023-09-09T09:05:12","slug":"tim-lai-su-tu-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/?p=15518","title":{"rendered":"T\u00ccM L\u1ea0I S\u1ef0 T\u1ef0 DO"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cCh\u00fang ta c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c hay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi vu t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ebfn du l\u1ecbch. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e0o <\/a>s\u00e2u v\u00e0o c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh n\u00f3, t\u1ef1 do th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng v\u00ec nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ea1i sao cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh l\u1ea1i x\u00e1m x\u1ecbt v\u00e0 \u0111au kh\u1ed5 h\u01a1n? C\u00f3 l\u1ebd b\u1edfi \u1edf nh\u1eefng n\u0103m th\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00f3i g\u1ecdn trong khu\u00f4n kh\u1ed5 l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i lu\u00f4n v\u00e2ng l\u1eddi. Trong su\u1ed1t th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u \u1ea5y, hi\u1ebfm ai ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh ch\u00fang ta bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh h\u1ebft th\u1ea3y danh s\u00e1ch nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 nh\u1eb1n m\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 ra b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c \u2013 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t v\u1ea5n b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec. Kh\u00f4ng ai h\u1ecfi li\u1ec7u ta c\u00f3 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c g\u00f3c c\u1ee7a tam gi\u00e1c hay hi\u1ec7u \u0111i\u1ec7n th\u1ebf th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 g\u00ec hay kh\u00f4ng, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta v\u1eabn tu\u00e2n theo trong m\u1ecdi tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p. Ta d\u00e0nh c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y, ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0o bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 tu\u00e2n th\u1ee7 m\u1ed9t l\u1ecbch tr\u00ecnh b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u00e0 k\u1ef9 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u. Ch\u00fang ta kho\u00e1c l\u00ean m\u00ecnh b\u1ed9 d\u1ea1ng r\u1ea7u r\u0129, ch\u00e1n ng\u00e1n v\u00e0 ng\u1ed3i v\u00e0o b\u00e0n, c\u1ed1 h\u1ecdc c\u1ed1t truy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a v\u1edf k\u1ecbch Macbeth hay c\u00e1c \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh h\u00f3a h\u1ecdc c\u1ee7a Heli – v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u1edfng r\u1eb1ng ta \u0111\u00e3 sai khi lu\u00f4n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n v\u00e0 m\u1ea5t h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u00fang ta sau \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng d\u1ea7n b\u1ecb lay \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c ngh\u0129 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh v\u1ec1 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi r\u1ed9ng l\u1edbn \u1ea5y. Ta cho r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t mu\u1ed1n d\u1eabu sao \u0111i n\u1eefa s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea3. V\u00ed nh\u01b0 ta ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p m\u00e0 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ecbnh ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eddi r\u1eb1ng n\u00f3 \u2018\u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn, ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p\u2019, \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi x\u00e3 giao \u201cB\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u00e0m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec?\u201d m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng v\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111em ra b\u00e0n t\u00e1n v\u00ec n\u00f3 qu\u00e1 kh\u00e1c l\u1ea1 hay t\u1ea7m th\u01b0\u1eddng. V\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00f3, ta nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do v\u1eeba h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn l\u1ea1i v\u1eeba phi l\u00fd v\u00f4 v\u00f9ng. Ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y t\u1ef1 do khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0: v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i s\u00e1ng th\u1ee9 b\u1ea3y hay l\u00fac ch\u00fang ta ngh\u1ec9 h\u01b0u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Theo n\u0103m th\u00e1ng, ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng chuy\u00ean gia trong vi\u1ec7c h\u1ee3p l\u00fd h\u00f3a nh\u1eefng th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00fang ta t\u1ef1 nh\u1ee7 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn n\u00e0o n\u1eefa. Ta v\u1eabn ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c duy tr\u00ec v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n hay m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n nh\u1ea1t nh\u1ebdo b\u1edfi v\u00ec (nh\u01b0 ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i) ta c\u1ea7n ti\u1ec1n hay b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 ta s\u1ebd th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng ho\u1eb7c ta ngh\u0129, nh\u1eefng ai l\u00e2m v\u00e0o ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0y c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 ta m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. Ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh thi\u00ean t\u00e0i trong vi\u1ec7c bao bi\u1ec7n cho ch\u00ednh c\u00e1i \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00e0m m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft v\u00e0 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u00e0 ph\u00e2n t\u00e2m h\u1ecdc ng\u01b0\u1eddi Anh s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0o gi\u1eefa th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 XX – Donald Winnicott t\u1eebng ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ec7nh nh\u00e2n (th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 uy t\u00edn v\u00e0 t\u00e0i gi\u1ecfi) \u0111ang r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng \u2018phi\u1ec1n n\u00e3o\u2019 b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd, theo nh\u01b0 \u00f4ng n\u00f3i, l\u00e0 \u201cqu\u00e1 ho\u00e0n m\u1ef9\u201d. H\u1ecd ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do v\u00e0 an to\u00e0n khi n\u00f3i kh\u00f4ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, n\u00f3i t\u00f3m l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 b\u1edfi v\u00ec nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u0103m s\u00f3c h\u1ecd \u1edf nh\u1eefng n\u0103m th\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 coi s\u1ef1 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ch\u00e2n th\u1ef1c l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 n\u1ed5i lo\u1ea1n mang t\u00ednh \u0111e d\u1ecda v\u00e0 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00e1c b\u1ecf. Winnicott cho r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ecbu ph\u1ee5c t\u00f9ng qu\u00e1 nhanh v\u00e0 qu\u00e1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1ed9t m\u1ef1c b\u1ea3o r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ta r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. Tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u201cx\u1ea5u xa\u201d m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng theo nh\u01b0 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a Winnicott kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 lu\u1eadt l\u1ec7 hay tr\u1edf n\u00ean hung h\u0103ng, m\u00e0 n\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do \u1edf ngay trong m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta, v\u1edbi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ch\u00fang. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean quan \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u00e2u s\u1eafc l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c suy cho c\u00f9ng ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u201cthi\u00ean th\u1ea7n h\u1ed9 m\u1ec7nh\u201d t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta, v\u00ec b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i t\u1eeb nhu c\u1ea7u c\u00e1 bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c hay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi vu t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ebfn du l\u1ecbch. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e0o s\u00e2u v\u00e0o c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh n\u00f3, t\u1ef1 do th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng v\u00ec nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 do l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 hay \u1edf nh\u00e0 su\u1ed1t nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y ngh\u1ec9. Y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta d\u00e1m s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng l\u00e0m ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, bu\u1ed3n l\u00f2ng hay r\u1ed1i b\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y\u2013\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00f2ng c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00e2m ni\u1ec7m r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ed1t y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi quan ni\u1ec7m chung c\u1ee7a s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00f4ng. Trong b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea3y may \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ta \u0111ang l\u00e0m, hay g\u00e1n cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ta l\u00e0 \u201ckh\u00f4ng ch\u00ednh th\u1ed1ng\u201d ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn, quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ta th\u1eadt k\u1ef3 qu\u1eb7c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng ch\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00e2m qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u b\u1edfi ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 v\u00e0 \u0111ang t\u1ef1 do. Ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n b\u1ecb x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n b\u1edfi quan ni\u1ec7m ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ef1 do l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eadn t\u00e2m – theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3 – \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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