{"id":15874,"date":"2024-01-28T21:02:53","date_gmt":"2024-01-28T14:02:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thichblog.net\/?p=15874"},"modified":"2024-01-28T21:02:53","modified_gmt":"2024-01-28T14:02:53","slug":"dung-qua-de-tam-toi-viec-nguoi-khac-nghi-gi-ve-minh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/?p=15874","title":{"rendered":"\u0110\u1eeaNG QU\u00c1 \u0110\u1ec2 T\u00c2M T\u1edaI VI\u1ec6C NG\u01af\u1edcI KH\u00c1C NGH\u0128 G\u00cc V\u1ec0 M\u00ccNH"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta b\u1eadn l\u00f2ng trong chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ed1i nh\u00e2n x\u1eed th\u1ebf ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c <\/a>ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t khi ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh, n\u1ed7i tr\u0103n tr\u1edf \u1ea5y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t. B\u1edfi d\u00f9 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129 ch\u00e1n ch\u00ea \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa, ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\ud83d\udc49\"L\u00fd do n\u00e0o khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng h\u00f3a suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e0nh vi quan tr\u1ecdng h\u00f3a suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n \u0111ang cho r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd s\u1ebd quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ebb b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i, \u0111\u1eafn \u0111o ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng \u201cLi\u1ec7u m\u00ecnh \u0103n m\u1eb7c hay l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0y c\u00f3 k\u00ec qu\u00e1 kh\u00f4ng?\u201d, \u201cLi\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ec9?\u201d. Th\u1ef1c ra, vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u00f3i quen \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady l\u00e0 v\u00ec tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u1eefng ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd nh\u1eb9. Trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eadt v\u1eabn lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m t\u1ea1o cho ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd nh\u1eb9. C\u00e1c ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y bao g\u1ed3m t\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch, \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c, ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch\u2026 t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Sau khi ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu nh\u1eefng ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u1edf d\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 v\u1eady n\u1eefa, l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng nh\u00ecn tr\u01b0\u1edbc ng\u00f3 sau v\u00ec mu\u1ed1n tr\u00e1nh m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i sai l\u1ea7m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ebb b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i hay m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 trong th\u00f3i quen th\u00ec c\u00f2n k\u00e8m theo \u201cph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ch\u01b0a k\u1ecbp th\u00edch \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u201d. V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 m\u1edbi l\u1ea1, ta ch\u01b0a k\u1ecbp l\u00e0m quen th\u00ec s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n lo l\u1eafng v\u00e0 s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n suy ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111ang ch\u01b0a k\u1ecbp th\u00edch \u1ee9ng nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh, c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh m\u1edbi l\u1ea1, c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00ec ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng n\u00e0y s\u1ebd d\u1ea7n bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ai, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd ti\u1ebfp nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nhau, d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh b\u1ea9m sinh, m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh s\u1ed1ng \u1edf hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i. D\u00f9 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 v\u1eadt s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c, nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng ai gi\u1ed1ng ai. Do \u0111\u00f3, suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi chung quy c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 \u201cc\u00e1ch h\u1ecd ti\u1ebfp nh\u1eadn, di\u1ec5n gi\u1ea3i s\u1ef1 v\u1eadt s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh\u201d m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\ud83d\udc49\"C\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00e2m t\u1edbi suy ngh\u0129a c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. B\u1ea1n h\u00e3y s\u1ed1ng cho th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i, h\u00e3y c\u1ee9 l\u00e0m \u0111i v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u1eebng quan t\u00e2m vi\u1ec7c m\u00ecnh l\u00e0m sau n\u00e0y m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd ngh\u0129 g\u00ec. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a sau n\u00e0y v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng, khi b\u1ea1n d\u00e1m thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng kh\u00f3 nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh ngh\u0129.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u201cB\u1eaft qu\u1ea3 tang\u201d ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh khi \u0111ang suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi suy ngh\u0129 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. H\u00e3y c\u1ed1 \u201cb\u1eaft qu\u1ea3 tang\u201d b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng l\u00fac \u0111ang suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ho\u1eb7c khi \u0111ang lo s\u1ee3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngh\u0129 x\u1ea5u v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ra l\u00fd do \u0111\u1eb1ng sau suy ngh\u0129 \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Ch\u1ecdn l\u1ecdc khi x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. \u0110i\u1ec1u c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngh\u0129 g\u00ec v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n h\u00e3y d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian h\u01a1n cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean m\u1ea5t qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng kh\u00f4ng x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 t\u1eadp trung ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Tr\u00edch: S\u00e1ch t\u00e2m l\u00fd d\u00e0nh cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta b\u1eadn l\u00f2ng trong chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ed1i nh\u00e2n x\u1eed th\u1ebf ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh. M\u1ed9t khi ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u1edbi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh, n\u1ed7i tr\u0103n tr\u1edf \u1ea5y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t. B\u1edfi d\u00f9 c\u00f3 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15874","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kynangsong"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15874","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15874"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15874\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15874"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15874"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vibeshelf.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15874"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}